I had a friend in college tell me once that she had no ambitions to be famous or extraordinary and was content to be mediocre her whole life.
At the time I was shocked by that. She didn’t mind being mediocre? Normal? Nothing special?
I, on the other hand, was filled with the twenty something angst of wanting more, wondering what I was doing with my life and why I hadn’t written a best seller yet or performed on stage for thousands or why I felt such a lack of direction and purpose in my life.
My friend reasoned that there are millions of people in the world and only a few that are famous or well known; just a handful that get written about in history books.
She just wanted to be happy. To have a good life, get married, have a family, travel some, live in a nice house.
I thought, “How boring” and secretly thought she was crazy.
BUT (there’s always a but in good stories) the more I read up on spirituality and the longer I live my life, I am starting to think my friend was wise beyond her years.
Anita Moorjani, the Author of Dying to Be Me, writes about her near death experience and what she learned.
Anita had terminal cancer for 4 years. All of her organs were shutting down and she went into a coma in 2006. I won’t go into her experience when she died because she writes about it so well in her book.
I do want to talk about what she learned though.
What she realized is that our only purpose in life is to be ourselves.
We are here to express ourselves and to live lives of joy.
Many people talk about positive thinking and the Law of Attraction- that what we THINK about we attract.
If we think scarcity and lack, we attract more scarcity and lack into our lives. If we think abundance and gratitude for all that we have, we attract more of that.
And to some extent this is true.
But, it is more about how we FEEL than how we think.
“Focus on your feelings more than your thoughts. Make your everyday choices based on what makes you FEEL good, rather than what you THINK you should do or what others think you should do.” ~Anita Moorjani
Much of the angst I have felt over “finding” my purpose has been because I thought that was expected of me.
I grew up believing we all have a higher purpose and we are not complete until we find and live that purpose.
I worried and struggled in my twenties because I thought I “should” be farther along in my career or I “should” be more creative and the only route to success was being unique and recognized by others.
If I had stopped to think about what made me feel good, what brought me joy, and how to express my own self more, I would have been a lot happier.
My friend knew what she wanted and what would make her happy. She didn’t buy into society’s rules that you had to be somebody that everybody knew.
You don’t have to be famous or extraordinary.
You just have to be YOU.
“What I really learned was that life is a gift, and our only purpose is to be who we are.
We all make it so complicated, and try to find our purpose.
I learned that all I have to do is be as me as I can be.”