There is a saying attributed to Benjamin Franklin, “The only things certain in life are death and taxes.”
I propose there is one more certain thing. It is something we all experience, cannot get out of, and can’t avoid.
Want to know the 3rd certain thing in life?
Any kind of change terrifies some people. But, it is unavoidable. We all change. You are not the same person you were when you were 2 years old, then when you were 8 years old, then when you were 18 years old.
People come and go from our lives. Experiences come, jobs change.
Even if you live in the same house in the same town you were born in, I bet the town is different. There are probably new stores, new houses, different cars, new babies, and some families have left.
People are naturally resistant to change. Our minds try to protect us. We can easily and immediately think of all the terrible things that might come about from this change we are facing.
Emotions come up even for “good” changes that we initiated and wanted.
If there is one thing I can confidently say I am an expert in, it’s change.
I have moved multiple times- 19 times to be exact. I have lived in 11 different states and one foreign country.
I have had multiple jobs in all different types of industries. I’ve been a journalist, an archaeologist, a waitress, a recruiter, and even sold fake gold jewelry to strippers (that job lasted exactly 2 days).
Here are 3 ways to make transitions and change a little bit easier on yourself.
- Know that you will have mixed emotions, even if this is a change you initiated and wanted. Maybe you got a promotion or started dating the cute guy you’ve been flirting with for a while.
You will have an initial high of excitement and all happy feelings but there will be some down emotions too; some sorrow for what you gave up for this new way of life.
Maybe you’ll miss your old co-workers or start to wish you could have some alone time, away from the new guy.
This doesn’t mean you’ve made a bad decision, or the change wasn’t for the best. It’s normal and natural. Expect it and be okay with having mixed emotions.
- Take care of yourself. Eat well, get plenty of sleep, cut yourself some slack. Everything is new. This will require extra brain power. You may even have headaches at the end of the day. You may be extra tired. Allow yourself to rest. Restore and maintain your energy. Drink water and be nice to yourself while you adjust.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. With every move, I usually met a neighbor or a co-worker I could ask for suggestions on what doctors to go to, who’s a good dentist, do they have kids that babysit?
You will have other questions depending on the change you have made. Reach out to others. Ask questions. Turn to people who have more experience than you do. You can’t and shouldn’t have to make the change all on your own. Don’t be afraid to ask others for help.
Change, like death and taxes is inevitable. It will always bring up feelings in you, some of them resistant.
But, to use another common phrase, “This too shall pass”.
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And now a recipe bonus for you-
Plain yogurt packs plenty of protein and calcium and is good for you but it can be a bit tart. Many people prefer a little flavor in their yogurt so they reach for the sugar laden flavored yogurts. All the sugar ends up negating the healthy aspects of eating yogurt in the first place.
So, here to save the day, I give you:
3 Easy and Healthy Yogurt Dishes
Each recipe starts with 1 cup of plain yogurt (I like the Fage brand 0% fat)
Stir in 1 grated medium apple, 1 Tbsp minced crystallized ginger, and 1 tsp chia seeds
Top with half a diced small cucumber, a sprinkle of lemon zest and juice, and a pinch each of salt and mint
Stir in 1 Tbsp of your favorite jelly. I use low sugar raspberry, for a nice fruity flavored yogurt without all the added sugar